The ‘Glee’ alum and the ‘Toy Story 5’ voice actress married in November 2015 and welcomed a daughter in 2019
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NEED TO KNOW
- Harry Shum Jr. told PEOPLE the key to his nearly 11-year marriage to his wife, Toy Story 5 voice actress Shelby Rabara
- The Glee alum also revealed his all-time favorite rom-com
- Shum caught up with PEOPLE exclusively at the premiere of his new Netflix movie, Voicemails for Isabelle
Harry Shum Jr. is sharing the secret to his decade-long marriage with actress Shelby Rabara.
The Grey's Anatomy actor, who tied the knot with Rabara in November 2015, caught up with PEOPLE exclusively at the premiere of his new Netflix rom-com movie, Voicemails for Isabelle, in Los Angeles on June 16. During the conversation, PEOPLE asked about the “secret” to his connection with Rabara, who voices a toy camera named Snappy in Toy Story 5.
“I don't know if I have a secret,” Shum, 44, said. “I think, to me, it's like there's no secret. I think it's just loving each other in different stages.”
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“It takes a different type of love [in each phase]. And it's like you're discovering this like, ‘Oh, this is what she needs, this is what I need.' And you kind of just communicate sometimes through argument, sometimes through silence, sometimes through just action,” he added.
And as for keeping the romance alive?
“I think the unexpected,” said the actor, who shares a 7-year-old daughter with Rabara, 42.
“Having things, like having the unexpected of not just like date night, but also just being able to feel like you're not just a parent. You're not just a husband and wife. And, like, what is that thing that kind of gets you excited? And [that] in turn is going to be romantic because you get excited. It becomes romantic,” he explained.
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The actor went on to dish on his favorite rom-com of all time.
“I watch … About Time like once a year,” Shum revealed. “Because it's like a love story, it's a rom-com, but also it's a father-son story. So I feel like there's this accessibility of just … finding the love that is in the movie in different versions of it, in different stages of it. So that's one that I always go back to.”
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In his most recent role in Voicemails for Isabelle — a rom-com in which a man (Nick Robinson) starts receiving voicemails from a woman (Zoey Deutch) who thinks she's leaving them for her late sister — Shum tells PEOPLE that he plays the film's “voice of reason.”
“I play Andy, who is Nick's character — Wes — his best friend,” he explained.
“I'm kind of like the voice of reason for him, because he does some stuff that he shouldn't be doing — like listening to a random girl's voicemails to her dead sister … but also realizing that this thing that he shouldn't be doing is something that he has to go through on his own,” Shum added.
“It's such a beautiful [movie],” the actor continued.
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“I think rom-coms are making their way back, [and] at the end of the day, we need more of that. We need ones that stay with you for a long time and not just like in and out. So this movie does that,” he added.
Voicemails for Isabelle is streaming on Netflix.
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