- A woman confessed she doesn’t want her husband to attend a female friend’s wedding abroad as she’s unable to go with him
- Writing on the UK-based forum Mumsnet, she said her husband and his female friend had a “brief romantic moment” before they met
- The majority of responses to the post were baffled by the woman’s concerns about her husband going to the nuptials
A woman is dreading her husband’s upcoming trip.
Explaining the situation on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet on Saturday, April 5, she wrote that her husband has a “long-time female best friend” who is getting married abroad. The pair never dated but had a “brief thing” years before the man was married.
She added that she’s unable to go with her husband to the wedding due to work commitments and a lack of money.
“He still wants to go alone, says it’s important to him and it’s ‘just a friend,’ ” the wife wrote. “I trust him, but I’m not entirely comfortable with the idea of him flying off solo to a wedding of someone he once had a thing with.”
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Curious how other people would handle the situation, she asked, “AIBU [am I being unreasonable] for saying I don’t want him to go?”
The post quickly garnered hundreds of comments from people saying that nothing was likely to happen between them if he attended the wedding.
“She’s getting MARRIED to someone else,” one person wrote. “You were invited. You can’t go. He wants to go. If you try and emotionally manipulate him because of your insecurities, and he doesn’t go, that will cause so much resentment.”
Another agreed, saying, “Get a grip. Your marriage is going to feel very long and hard if you keep up with this sort of nonsense.”
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“YABU [you are being unreasonable] and if I’m honest, a little controlling,” a third chimed in. “How would you feel if he told you, you couldn’t go to a friend’s wedding because he didn’t trust you? No matter how much you protest that you trust him, the fact is your actions show you don’t.”
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Among the comments was one person quizzing the wife on the relationship that she has with her husband’s female friend.
She replied by saying that the friend was invited to her own nuptials and if it wasn’t for their “brief romantic moment in the past,” she likely wouldn’t be bothered by her husband going to the destination wedding.
“There’s no drama between her and me but we’re not close — we’ve only met a few times and there’s always been a slight emotional ‘closeness’ between her and my husband that I’ve noticed,” the wife said. “Nothing overly inappropriate, just… more warmth than I sometimes feel totally at ease with.”
She added, “So no, I don’t suspect anything concrete. It’s more the combination of history, distance and not being able to go that’s making me feel uneasy.”
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