- A woman asked Reddit if she was in the wrong after telling her family she wouldn’t be their designated driver on New Year’s Eve.
- She revealed that she has been the designated driver for seven years and wanted one celebration to just relax.
- The woman’s family had a negative reaction to her decision, sending her texts calling her “dramatic” and “selfish, and accusing her of “ruining the night.”
A woman’s choice to relinquish her title as the family designated driver on New Year’s Eve resulted in a familial fight and her being labeled “selfish.”
In a recent post on Reddit’s popular “Am I the A——?” forum, the 26-year-old woman described how her family’s annual alcohol-infused celebration was her breaking point of being expected to make sure everyone gets home safe.
“Don’t get me wrong, I love my family, but it’s starting to bug me. It’s been like this since I was 19, even before I was legally allowed to drink,” she said.
Explaining that since she doesn’t “drink much — maybe a glass of wine or a beer,” she’s “fine with driving people home if they need it.” However, the increasing entitlement and demands throughout the last few years have made the woman upset despite not wanting “to let anyone down.”
“Fast forward to this year’s New Year’s Eve. I told my family ahead of time I wasn’t going to be the DD anymore. I just wanted to enjoy the night, have a couple of drinks, and not be responsible for getting everyone home,” the Redditor said.
The woman continued, sharing that as she was enjoying herself at the family function a relative again asked her to be the designated driver even though she had already declined.
“My cousin came over and asked if I was ready to drive everyone home. I reminded her I’m not driving tonight, I’m here to enjoy the party. She looked at me like I was crazy and said, “Come on, you always drive! Don’t be a bitch,” the woman recalled.
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The woman stood her ground and said that she “wasn’t going to be the chauffeur anymore.” Her aunt then interjected and “lectured” her, saying, “We all agreed last year you’d be driving. You know how much we rely on you. Everyone else is too tipsy, and Ubering is so unsafe. Just drive this one time, for the family.”
Continuing to refuse, the woman said her aunt got even more “upset” and called her “selfish” and pressed her to drive despite the woman revealing that she “had already had three beers, so I wasn’t even legally supposed to drive myself.”
The Reddit user said that when she “snapped” and told her family “they needed to figure out their own rides” before she “got up and left.”
The woman said after taking an Uber home, she “spent the rest of New Year’s Eve at home, watching Netflix and eating leftover pasta with my boyfriend.”
Although she had a pleasant end to her evening, the woman said her family sent text messages describing her “dramatic, selfish, and “ruining the night.”
The woman was then told that her entire family was “disappointed” in her and they are now “demanding an apology.”
Fellow Reddit users were overwhelmingly on the woman’s side, agreeing with her stance to no longer be the family designated driver.
“Your family’s reaction is over the top. You clearly set boundaries ahead of time, and they ignored them. It’s not selfish to want to celebrate like everyone else instead of always being the designated driver,” one user wrote.
“They are selfish and manipulative. They don’t care about your feelings. Do not apologize. Spend your New Year’s next year somewhere else,” added another.
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