A 30-year-old mom-to-be is seeking advice from the Reddit community after feeling disappointed by her husband’s Valentine’s Day gift.
The expectant mother recounts how her husband built up anticipation for the present, telling her “he had just an incredible gift for Valentine’s Day and he just knew he would knock it out of the park.” He was so confident in his choice that he didn’t even plan a date night, believing the gift alone would suffice.
“When I opened one of our spare closets and saw my wedding dress wasn’t there, I immediately realized my gift was that he took it to be cleaned,” she shares. “We’ve only been married for a year, and I never got around to doing the cleaning because we thought we might retake our photos.”
As the poster suspected, the early Valentine’s Day gift turned out to be the cleaning and preservation of her wedding dress. While she appreciates the gesture, she can’t help but feel let down, she admits. “Cleaning and preserving the dress was always on my To Do list, I just hadn’t gotten to it, especially now since I’m 5 months pregnant,” she writes.
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“I appreciate the gesture but…it’s just an item from my to do list,” she reiterates. “I appreciate he took it off my plate, but to me this was basically just running an errand.” Despite her dismay, she hasn’t yet told her husband how she’s feeling. Plus her mother thinks she’s being ungrateful, telling her she doesn’t “appreciate this very romantic gesture,” she writes.
Now the woman wonders if her feelings on the matter are wrong.
“We’re generally very open and honest when we dislike something or aren’t on the same page. He has gotten me good gifts (absolutely NAILED it with my engagement ring, with the help of my Pinterest board),” she shares.
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She notes, “I’m keeping my disappointment to myself because I know he tried so hard, I’m just bummed.” In response to Reddit users who ask what she’ll be gifting her husband, she replies, “He’s not a gift guy,” and she notes she often buys him things he’s requested in the past.
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Redditors on the whole think she’s overreacting. “He did something that he thought you would love. It’s symbolic of how he wants to preserve and keep sacred the day that he married you,” writes one user.
“To him this probably feels like he’s preserving an irreplaceable part of your love story, not just running an errand,” shares another. “It’s been a year, so this feels less like he did a chore that you’ve been meaning to do and more like he went out of his way to do something that he thought was meaningful and that you would cherish.”
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