A man says he and his significant other disagree on how often to run the dishwasher — and do the laundry.
In a post to Reddit’s AITA forum, a 31-year-old man said that his significant other, 29, does the dishes before bed “no matter how full or empty the dishwasher is.”
“She says it’s so we will always have fresh dishes for the next day, but it’s just us in the house and we have plenty of spare dishes,” he wrote, adding, “I’ve literally seen her run it when there were only a couple plates and some forks and knives in the wash.”
As if that wasn’t enough, the man said that she “will also run the laundry machine at least once every single day,” even if there’s only a “single item in the entire wash.”
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Although the man went on to say that he does understand that “certain tops are delicate and shouldn’t be in the regular wash,” that doesn’t change the fact that he believes doing this too much is overboard.
“IMO she should hold off until she has a full wash’s worth of delicates before running a load,” he said.
As the post came to a close, the man stressed that despite his complaints, he is “absolutely” willing to do chores around the house — and that he regularly hand washes dishes that can’t go in the dishwasher, takes out the garbage, vacuums and more.
“I do contribute,” he continued. “And have offered to contribute to the laundry and dishes many times. But I’m not going to be the one starting each machine when there’s only an item or 2 sitting in them.”
He went on to say that whenever he brings up his complaints, they don’t go over very well. “She gets quite upset every time I complain about this routine being wasteful,” he wrote. “IDK, am I the one being ridiculous here?”
The comments were divided.
Some commenters said that the man’s significant other might just be “trying to keep up with her responsibilities” and make sure they always “have clean dishes and clean laundry.”
“Maybe you should ask yourself if this is really a hill you want to die on. So she doesn’t like leaving dirty things lying around… not the worst bad habit to have,” another commenter wrote — however, as others argued, running those appliances so often objectively is “a waste of water and electricity.”
“There is no way I could ever live with them,” another Redditor agreed. “The wasted water, electricity, money and eventual wear and tear on the machines to have to replace them so much sooner than necessary makes me just LIVID.”
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