A man was “caught off guard” when his girlfriend asked him to pay for the “ton” of things her friend had ordered at their recent dinner.
The 28-year-old man chronicled the restaurant incident — and the aftermath of being “annoyed” about footing the bill for himself, his 27-year-old girlfriend and her friend — on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum.
“It was supposed to be just us, but last minute, she asked if her friend (let’s call her Sarah) could join. I said sure, no problem,” he began his post. “Dinner was nice, we all had a good time, and when the bill came, I put down my card to cover my girlfriend and me.”
He recalled that “Sarah” did not reach for her card or any money, so that’s when his girlfriend asked him, “Oh, babe, can you cover Sarah’s too?”
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“I was caught off guard,” he remembered. “Sarah had ordered a ton — appetizers, drinks, dessert — and her portion was almost as much as ours combined. I hesitated and said, ‘Uh, I wasn’t really planning on that.’ My girlfriend looked embarrassed and mumbled, ‘It’s just easier if you do.’ ”
Despite witnessing the brief back-and-forth, the friend “stayed quiet” and “didn’t offer to pay” for her portion of the dinner bill, the man said, so he paid.
“I didn’t want to cause a scene, but I was annoyed,” he further explained. “Later, I told my girlfriend that I didn’t appreciate being put on the spot like that.”
During the heated discussion, the girlfriend called him “stingy,” the man said.
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“She got defensive, saying I was being stingy and that ‘it’s just one meal,’ ” he detailed. “I argued that it wasn’t about the money — it was about being expected to pay without being asked beforehand.”
Contemplating whether he “overreacted,” the boyfriend asked Redditors if he was in the wrong, and many sided with him.
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“You did not overreact,” one person stated. “Your girlfriend invited Sarah without telling you beforehand and then manipulated you and put you on the spot, which was a really rude thing to do. She owes you a huge apology and the money for her friend’s meal.”
“No, the next time the girlfriend pulls something like that [the boyfriend] needs to flag down the server and ask for the bill with his girlfriend to be separated, pay for his own bill and walk, leaving them to pay for their own bills AND find a way home,” another user wrote.
“See how the girlfriend likes them apples,” they continued.
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